This is a newbie question and probably sounds dumb to the experienced.
I have just started IPSIC . I am shooting with a 230 grain lead round nose bullet( hand load ) and am wondering what folks normally shoot with, would I get less recoil with a 185 or 200 grain bullet yes I can tailor the load down but wonder if I am wasting my time doing so with the 230 grain . I am finding that after the first round it takes some time refocusing to aim the second shot and of course speed is of the essence. My fellow shooters just tell me to purchase a 9mm and move on. Well I am in love with the 45ACp 1911 and that just is not going to happen .
I would appreciate your feedback.